How a wife should get started dominating her husband - part 1

It is normally men who introduce to women their need to be submissive and dominated by the woman they love.

It can often be a shock to the woman if she has no idea of her husband/partner’s secret desires and fantasies.

Firstly and most importantly it is important to keep the lines of communication open between both partners.

As much as his confession may shock you he has chosen you and wants you to be the main focus in your new changed life together.

For a lot of women it brings up mixed emotions strong feelings of guilt for example, especially if you have a strict religious background.

You may question your relationship/ marriage. All these concerns are natural and I hope that I can alleviate some of the bigger issues for you.

Men introduce this desire to women because they need to be submissive to them. Something inside them yearns for a strong woman’s power.

They will have already struggled within themselves about this natural desire and tried to resist the temptation that grows inside them.

But it won’t be dealt with effectively until they are in a loving relationship where they feel safe to explore all these desires.

Women who openly embrace this new lifestyle are able to allow the dominant side of their nature to flow freely.

By letting this happen they generally discover a freedom in their behaviour as they have had to repress their natural dominance for so long.

Also being dominant does not necessarily mean that you have to be aggressive; it is more about being assertive.

You will find that letting this out has a knock on effect in other areas of your life, and you will naturally feel more confident.

Depending on your relationship it is up to you as individuals to discover how much D&S behaviour you want to allow into your lives.

You may decide on several sessions per week, depending on time and other factors such as family life.

It can take on whatever form you feel comfortable with. If you want to embrace the whole leather scene and use tools on your man to train him then do so.
How soft or hard you decide to be again is down to personal preference, never be forced into doing something your not happy with as neither of you will enjoy the experience.

Find out what drives your man wild. What is he personally into? Does he have a leather fetish, a boot fetish, or a strong desire to be spanked?

Once you have discovered what does it for him, use it to your advantage. Get him aroused and then let him serve you.

While he serves you, whether it’s oral sex, massages or whatever, keep him aroused but deny him, otherwise he will fail to serve you adequately.

Remember the key to domination is your attitude. If you adopt the right attitude when you are with your man, you will always be one step ahead.

Before a session take a look at yourself in the mirror and stop to give yourself a pep talk.

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